Tuesday, March 18, 2008

ONE Thing?

ONE Thing?
What do you see as ONE thing that you would NEVER give up in your teaching repertoire?
The number one thing I would ever give up is the use of humor. Humor in the classroom is one of those things that I am always seeking and striving for. Here is a piece I have been working on...
Either respond to it or write about that ONE thing you would never be able to do without!

The Jokes on You

“Humor, like hope, permits one to focus upon and to bear what is too terrible to bear," Harvard psychiatrist George Vaillant, writes in "The Wisdom of the Ego."

“Why did the cookie go to the doctor’s office?”
“Because she was feeling crummy!”
“Do you get it?”
My daughter, Emma loved to tell this joke when she found herself in new strange situations. Humor is one of those incredible gifts that we all have for making human connections. This was her way of taking some kind of control over her illness and she loved to tell this joke over and over. The delight in her eyes in seeing who “got it” was sheer heaven, thinking she was so clever and loving the joke over and over herself. There was something in this joke that she could see that made her enjoy it every time she told it. She “got” it and was always sure to ask, “Do you get it?”
The "getting it" is like the secret that she is privy to, the delight is making sure that everyone is able to enjoy the magic of the punch line in the same way as the teller. And there is an art to telling a good joke and the feedback is instant…did you get a laugh or not? You can always tell those who get it as an expression of knowing crosses their faces, and then there are those that laugh to be polite and those who are laughing as they are still trying to figure it out. We have all been there, at one end or the other and of course the worst place to be is to be the jokester that gets no laughs at all. It is a tough lesson, but one that you can do something about right away.

In the classroom one part of our morning meeting was joke telling. There were some rules surrounding the telling. First the joke had to be appropriate for school. Yes, of course there were those who pushed the limit every time, but for the most part kids were able to discriminate between those that would be acceptable and those that would not. Just trusting them allowed them the freedom and the responsibility to make good choices. The other rule was that you had to practice the joke at least three times and that you had to get a laugh at least one or two of those times before volunteering for morning meeting. This was for two reasons; one was to work on the delivery and to work on making it funny. We would talk about what made a good joke and what didn’t. We talked about the emphasis being on the punch line and how to deliver an effective punch line. These could be classified in our reading curriculum under reading with expression, the importance of audience and comprehension studies. (How is that for meeting standards?) It was a clear test of whether the child understood the joke or not based on the reaction of the audience. If it was not funny we worked together as a group to think about what could be done with the joke to make it funnier. This is revision in real life. Then the child would take his or her newly revised joke out into the world and wait until it was funny enough to bring it back to the class. Everyone had ownership of the joke by then and often there would be many versions of the same joke told over and over again. This gave us time to talk about the fact that authors do this all the time. Once someone has a great idea then other authors try to take the basic idea and make it their own. We talked about how this often happened with jokes and that jokes changed regularly in their details because joke-telling is typically an oral form of literacy that is passed on from person to person. The game of telephone is a great way to show how things change based on the oral telling and that people all hear things differently. Telephone is when you start at the beginning of the circle with a silly phrase or riddle and then have the kids whisper it from person to person until the end of the circle. By the end it has usually changed completely from where it began.
I would always begin the year telling a joke to model how to tell a joke. I would overemphasize the telling in order to be able to point out to the class just what it was I was doing and that there are things that you can do to tell a good joke. The joke I told was about a chicken that goes into the library to get a book. He goes up to the librarian and says, “Book, book book”. This is said like a chicken saying bok, bok, bok with a high voice. (This is hard to put into writing!) The chicken takes the book and returns within 10 minutes shouting the same thing to the librarian, “Book, book, book”. The librarian thinks this is strange but gives the chicken another book. Sure enough if you have heard enough jokes you know that this chicken is going to be back in no time. This structure allows us to look at it closely and see there is predictability in jokes and that if you wanted to make up your own joke then like fairy tales, the magic number of 3 often appears. Well, the chicken magically does show up again but this time the librarian wants to know what is going on, knowing the chicken could not have read either of those books so quickly. She gets on her coat and decides, after giving the chicken yet another book, to find out what is going on by following the chicken. The chicken leaves the library, heads up a big hill, out into a field and through the forest to a clearing. (Again here is a way a leading the audience into what we know is going to be the punch line. I talk about slowing down here and that when I do the audience almost leans in waiting, waiting, waiting and thinking get to the punch line already!) At the edge of the clearing is a pond. The chicken walks over to the edge of the pond where a frog is sitting. The chicken pulls out the book and shows it to the frog. The frog looks at it and promptly replies, “READ IT. READ IT”. Of course this is said like a frog instead of ribbit it is read it. These slight changes in voice are very important because without them the joke is just not funny! So, okay you are thinking this is a dumb joke, and it is. It is also, however an excellent model for kids because it is clean and it contains so many elements of a good joke. This gets kids thinking about their own jokes and jokes they have heard in the past. Often one of the hardest things to do is to just remember the joke. I tell the kids that having one or two good jokes in your pocket is a great way to be in a new crowd. Everyone loves a good joke. But is has to be a GOOD joke. A bad joke won’t get you very far. This also encourages kids to think about themselves in social settings and to think about when it is appropriate to tell a joke and when it is not.

“Jokes compact the elements of storytelling into bite-sized mini-narratives. They are not just funny. For writers and editors, they are models that can help teach storytelling” Chip Scanlon, the Poynter Institute.


Joke telling is a form of storytelling, something that we can use to help our young writer’s to see the elements of a story in a very compact version. To tell a good joke the teller must prepare the reader by setting the stage introducing main characters and setting, the chicken, the librarian and the library.

Next is to provide some kind of background for the reader, in knowing the structure of many jokes, one is sure that the chicken will be coming back at least a couple more times. Also using the voices allows for the characters to know more about them. She is a female chicken with a high voice; the librarian is suspicious about a reading chicken from the beginning.

The joke relies heavily on creating scenes that the reader can follow. The chicken comes and goes, comes and goes and does these actions very quickly, leading the librarian to become even more suspicious.

A good joke creates suspense, engaging the reader as they sit and listen, leaning in to find out what in the world is going to happen next and often this is done through conflict. The conflict here is for the librarian who is miffed that this chicken keeps on coming back without having read a book!

Next it builds to a climax and a clear resolution. We know that when the chicken leaves and the librarian follows that we are going with her and that we will find out instantly just what the chicken is up to.

Finally, is that wonderful element of surprise, the “aha” moment where we wonder how we didn’t get it all along. It is funny that the chicken is trying to get the frog a new book and so we laugh with this quick resolution and twist that we can visualize as being very funny.


Derek was a small fourth grader who had a hard time fitting in. Not only was he smaller than all of his classmates, but he was somewhat goofy looking and gangly. He had a hard time finding his place in the world and was often seen getting into it with kids. If there was trouble, then Derek was in the middle of it. In the classroom he struggled. As a reader he struggled the most. For Derek, this opportunity to tell jokes, this place where being the class clown was encouraged was his place to shine. By the end of the year he had found every joke book in his local area. I will never forget the day he showed up with a book the size of Webster’s heaved up under his arm. It was titles “A Million and One Jokes.” Derek would sit for hours pouring over this book in search of the perfect joke. It was a ridiculous book for him as it was laden with jokes that were so out there that I didn’t get a lot of them. Many of them politically motivated from cultures all over the world. The schema one would have to have for many of these jokes would put Google to shame! The print was as small as anyone could imagine, but he continued to read over it, searching for that one joke that he did get! And he would know when he would get it. You want to talk about serious monitoring for meaning. He was getting to know himself as a reader through this insurmountable task he had set for himself. He would carry that book everywhere…and did I mention it must have weighed 25 pounds??
At first he would tell jokes that none of us got. Eventually, though he was able to work on finding a good one, practice it and in no time Derek became one of the classes favorite joke tellers. This was his forte’. This was his place to find comfort and acceptance for who he was. This also gave him a very real reason to read and to read for meaning. It also gave him a real reason to write as he then went on to write his own jokes. At morning meeting it would be Derek that everyone wanted to tell a joke. Each day we had time for three jokes. On days when nobody else would volunteer, they would all chant Derek’s name and he would get up and do his own version of a Leno monologue telling joke after joke. He was good. I don’t know where Derek is today, but I have a hunch that someday I may see him on stage at the Laugh Factory!

We need to value children, for who they are, not who we want them to be. We need to look at each child and find the strength inside of him. Derek could also easily have dropped out of school. It was not a place that he “typically” succeeded and it was joke telling that allowed him to have a place in our classroom community for who he was. Don’t get me wrong. This was not that all magical cure and Derek continued to struggle each and every day in the classroom and on the playground, but offering this as an option allowed for Derek and other kids to use their humor in an effective and constructive way. It also allowed Derek to take some of the painful anger in his life and poke fun at that as well. Doris Kearns Goodwin writes in Team of Rivals, a study of Abraham Lincoln where she focused on “the vital role humor and storytelling played in Lincoln’s melancholy personality.” , “He laughed, so he did not weep. He saw laughter as the ‘joyous, universal evergreen of life.’ His stories were intended ‘to whistle off sadness.’”

Where there is laughter there is community, and where there is community, there are safe learning environments. We should each laugh as many times in the day as we can. I remember reading somewhere that we use so many more facial muscles to frown than to laugh…therefore frowning causes more wrinkles!!. So heck, let’s laugh or in the end…the joke is on you!!

8 comments:

debi said...

Hi everyone! Okay, I'm going to dive in first with this one. First of all, I would put humor up there in my top 3. If you can't laugh at yourself and not take things so seriously-you'll have an ulcer before you are 10! My dad has always said "don't worry about the little 'gadzies' laugh at them and be strong for when something really big comes along-because it will." This was his way of saying it can be worse but you are strong. I love when my cuties get my sense of humor and I love when I can stop a tear by making a comment that makes them realize what a little 'gadzie' it was.
So... with that said... I do not think that I could teach without love. I don't just mean love and passion for my teaching but also for my students. Each year, I fall in love with my class. I find something(usually lots of things) that I can fall in love with! I take them under my wings and I treat each student with the all the love that I have-like they were my own. I would want teachers to do that for my children. The day they say that we shouldn't hug a child will be a sad day for me. Love is not just in hugs though-it is in your soul-it shows in your eyes and it appears in your actions. It makes you feel safe and provides you with a feeling of belonging and a sense of unconditional acceptance. Each year, I cry on Step Up Day and my class and I sit and talk about the fact that my tears and their fears are happy/sad and that it's perfectly okay to feel that way! I cry because I am so proud of them and excited for them and also because I love them so much and I have become comfortable with them and I feel warm and happy when I am with them. I describe it to my class like this: I am like a Mommy robin who has done all that she can for her baby birds and now she has to let them leave the nest and grow." I tell them that my nest (room) is always open and that I will never stop loving them. I also tell them that whenever they need me they can write to me or come see me and I will always be there for them. That's what love is for! Wow! What a great learning environment I try to create. If you took love away from my teaching- I might just droop like the charming group of roses and I don't even think chicken soup with rice would help!

Chaffee said...

Debi- love your entry! I totally agree with you about love being a vital part of teaching. Even though I don't have kids (yet) I try to think about my nephew and nieces and how I would want their teachers to treat them. How patient would I want them to be with Owen if he wasn't getting something or following directions. I try to keep this in the back of my mind when I feel as if I'm repeating myself over and over. I'm not sure if you would call this love or patience!

Next, I will just start with a quote from one of my students... not to toot my own horn or anything but one day, after delivering one of my very corny jokes that my husband says only second graders can appreciate, Jude blurts out, "Mrs. Chaffee, you're a comedian!" Yes, I am Jude- yes, I am! My family and I have always laughed a lot- especially my sister and me. We actually like to laugh at ourselves and at eachother! I love funny and I'm trying to convince myself that those pesky parentheses that are on my face at age 26, you know- laugh lines, it's because I make myself laugh and surround myself with others who make me laugh...except you BJ- you are not funny at all and I'm way funnier! Actually, this leads me to the use of humor in my classroom. I, too, feel that humor makes for a more comfortable, homey, relaxed environment. Joking with the kids about words- this week we have the word repeat as one of our spelling words, so whenever it was time to review it, I would constantly repeat the word until someone's lightbulb finally went off. Now they keeping asking to practice the word repeat. Now they keep asking to practice the word repeat. OK- I'm having way too much fun with this entry! And I'm laughing out loud to myself right now!

I never thought to use joke telling at morning meeting,and I think it is quite interesting. I wonder how second grade jokes would be though. Lots of knock, knocks at first I would think. But I guess that's not a bad place to start.

gina said...

Humor!
When I think of the events, stories, jokes that I have experienced in my years of teaching I wonder how I am not published author yet! Anyone who knows me knows I love to tell a good story. I too have those creases on my face, Kim. But I think most of mine have come from my story-telling. I said to my husband one night, "Babe what am I gonna do about all these wrinkles on my forehead?" I knew his response even before he spoke. "Well, if you'd stop making all those goofy faces at you kids all day long, you'd be all set!" He's right. I am goofy. I can make Buzz Lightyear eyebrows, move my hair without touching my head, and make my top and bottom lips face completely opposite directions (a skill not achieved by many). I love laughing and I love getting a laugh-till-I-cry response from my "audience." I wear my "goofy face" wrinkles with pride and would never dream of teaching without them!

Lannan said...

Gina, I cannot believe I have yet to see your Buzz Light Year eyebrows! I do have to say you make me laugh when you make your silly faces and usually they are during a really funny story. I absolutely positively love laughter wherever it may be. I could not would not marry a man who could not make me laugh on a daily basis (ok I’ll take weekly) and I think, like Kim said, I surround myself with others who make me laugh. I too have laugh lines and I am a whole one-year younger than you Kim! I not only love to laugh, but I love when others are laughing around me even it if it might me at me. My most vivid memories of laughter are those times when it becomes uncontrollable and it seems as though everyone and everything around you is silent. There is that feeling of make it stop while it is happening, but afterwards I always feel so happy and satisfied! I love listening to my students have funny stories with each other and to see how little it takes to make them laugh. I love to watch them laugh during SSR at a funny part in the story. Most of all I love it when we are all truly laughing together at something funny that we all understand. There is something about a 25 year old and twenty-one 8 year olds that are all laughing at the same time that makes me feel so great inside! I feel such a connection to my students when this happens and I hope that feeling continues throughout my teaching career.

Ronnie said...

I use humor to help make each day of my life a little better. Well, maybe not EACH day but many days. It is without a doubt an important part of my classroom. However, when I think about the one thing that I would never give up… it would be the creating and supporting a sense of community within my classroom. How I do that has continued to develop and change with each class. It always involves ensuring a sense of order, predictability, and trust. It means that we need to know and value each other.

By focusing on our community, students are able to take care of each other because it is the right thing to do. When James is nervous about using the boys bathroom because he thinks there may be a spider lurking in the corner, Ricky offers to accompany him. Ricky understands James’ fear. They form a plan together. Ricky will be the lookout and James can focus on what he needs to do. It isn’t necessary for me to intervene.

Emily knows that whenever she is in need or when the morning has been hectic, she can ask for a hug or some quiet time to talk about her ‘rough spots’. She trust that this environment will be supportive. If she is feeling a little emotional, the class understands. They’ll offer encouragement, a cheer-up post-it note, or an invitation to play together at recess.

Robby and Luke two shy, quiet students have found a mutual respect for each. They have volunteered to work together to create guidelines for display visiting Bionicles. These little Lego-like creatures have begun to occupy a part the day that is usually reserved for…learning. Rather than banning the Bionicles, the class asked for a chance to create a plan.

Working to create a place where students have a sense of ownership is an important part of my classroom goals. I want my students to know that our classroom will be a place of mutual respect, kindness and understanding. We are a community. A place where learners come together. A place where we take risks, feel valued and connected. That each child has that sense of belong to something special… that is the one thing I strive to make happen.


I would also like to add a few additional random thoughts. Teaching is full of rewards and challenges. For me one of the best rewards, is when colleagues gather just after the classroom day offical ends. We share 'war' stories that are sure to bring out fits of laughter. The stories make the ride home shorter and thoughts about starting over again tomorrow that much brighter. And Gina, no one I know can retell a radio joke (minus the punch line) like you can. :) B.J., I think you will agree that a bit of humor at the right time can change the mood of a day (exhibit A-yellow wrapper).

B.J. Martin said...

Sense of Belonging (Trust)

I think one of the most important things in my classrooms is students understanding that it is ok to make mistakes…nobody is perfect…now I do understand that is funny coming from me, but REALLY! I say day after day that nobody is perfect…not even me (funny huh Kim)!!! I also say over and over that we learn from our mistakes. I want kids to take risks and feel good about their learning and helping others. I LOVE it when kids feel safe enough in their environment to admit wrong doing, try something new, or admit that they just don’t understand something. You know that usually means that at least five others don’t understand either. I think a sense of belong encompasses so much! I too enjoy laughter and fun! Hugs, Hugs, Hugs…I couldn’t live without them either.

Ronnie is 100% right in that we do need a little hummer and joke in our lives. What yellow wrapper??? I don’t know what you are talking about!!! Thanks for always making me laugh!!

Jenn said...

So...I've checked this blog out at least 6 times and each time logged off because I couldn't pick one thing I couldn't live without. In fact, I got more confused the more I read other people's. Theirs were not mine.

If I had to choose the one thing I am most passionate about in teaching, I would say it is the social curriculum we either knowingly or unknowingly teach children. When we survey GBS students at the end of 2nd grade, do you know what is most important to them? Believe me, it wasn't the lesson on "ow" versus "ou" or "how good readers make predictions" or "how good mathemeticians can add in their head." The most important factor is making and being friends. In fact, if you think back to second grade, you'll probably think first of a friend you had or how "nice" (such a vague term) your teacher was. Do you really pick out individual lessons in your mind? No, but the relationships stand out.

For each of my students, I am passionate that they leave with a CARES attitude. C stands for cooperation. I want to directly teach how to cooperate and work in groups. As an adult, I still dislike working in groups. Too many bad experiences of someone (aka....me) doing all the work and everyone else getting the grade. I want my 2nd graders to be able to share ideas, build upon each other's work, and solve group problems.

The A stands for being assertive. One of my pet peeves is for children to say, "Mrs. Braaanch, Johnny hurt me. Mrs. Braaaanch, Kim took my pencil." or worse yet, not say something when there really is a problem. I spend all year teaching kids to stand up for themselves by using their words to address problems in nonconfrontational ways. What a life lesson I am still learning!

The R stands for responsibility. Children need a chance to practice being responsible on a routine basis. For some this comes naturally (a call out to all those type a's!) and others need to work at it. But to think of school as a lab where you can put things to the test and get help along the way is so powerful. Responsibility for classroom jobs, for keeping our room clean, for turning in work on time, for doing your best, the list goes on. But each piece starts to build character.

E stands for empathy. This piece is so hard for 2nd graders, ok, and for me. I marvel at how empathetic my husband is. He would sacrifice any number of things, without a second thought, to help someone. In fact, he notices who needs help way before I ever do. For me, empathy is hard. It is a skill to learn and I have to consciously look for ways to empathize with others. For students it is the same way. They need consistent experiences where it is safe enough to share your feelings with a group. They need to hear that Kristen's Grandma is dying and she's really sad, and that Will is moving and is worried he won't have friends, and that Greg never has a partner to play with. They are quick offer hugs and cards and sympathetic words when they are in a community where such things are safe.

Finally, S stands for self-control. Can't you picture Mikey sneaking those scissors off the table even after the explicit directions not to touch? It's so tempting! I can relate with chocolate. But where do we learn how to deal with those intense urges? What are the consistent consequences when we give in? How can we as a class work together to find solutions to common areas of problem? There is such power when the class names and uses 5 different ways to keep your hands still. Even more so, it is more powerful when the 7 year old next to John says "Try folding your hands like a basket so you won't touch" then when I say "keep you hands to yourself."

I want to teach life skills peppered with curriculum instead of the other way around. I want to make a difference 6 years from now when they're in middle school. This, I am passionate about.

Michelle said...

Wow! One thing? I think I am going to say personality. I hope that I use my best traits to bring out the best traits in my students. Despite my move from the classroom, my students want the same thing from me: they want me to know them. They need me to know their likes, dislikes, strengths, and weaknesses. It is imperative that I know what motivates them and what frustrates them. I need to know their personality and I must get through to them using mine. Sometimes that means humor, many times that means compassion, but above it all it needs to be me and it needs to be sincere. I find that it is more important than ever that I know my students that I am working with in intervention. I need to know them academically, but I also need to know what makes them tick. Reading is hard for them so it is up to me to make it a little easier. In order to do that I need to tap into their personality. If they like joke books, then I need to be funny and tell jokes. If they are shy then I need to dig back and find a time when I was shy. I need to find a way to bring our personalities together. I love that about teaching. You can take 25 different personalities, put them together for a year, and come out with a cohesive group that now has its very own personality!